ARLetters from Mom: Standing on the Threshold of Adulthood"Remembering and not forgetting, leaving but never letting go." Thoughts from a mother to a child nearly grown.A mother writes as she would to her child and addresses the struggles of young people as they step toward the threshold of adulthood. A piece written to encourage, comfort, and urge young people to continue living as children of God.
By the time this
letter arrives, you will have stepped a little closer toward the threshold
of adulthood and be in a position to throw open that door and step out
into the world of many possibilities that lie at your feet. My natural
instinct is to pull you back in and slam the door shut tight. But such is
the natural progression of life, and the time has come when you must go.
Still, I can’t help but think that it is a big, bad world out there. You’ve
heard it said that only the fittest survive. Would you get eaten alive?
Today, I feel drawn
to Scripture that speaks of remembering and not forgetting. Moses, for
one, seemed especially inclined to include these themes in his farewell
address to the Israelites before they entered the Promised Land. There, by
the edge of Canaan, Moses told the Israelites that they were soon to part
company. He told them to remember everything that God had done to get them
thus far. He told them not to forget to obey God’s commandments when
they start anew in Canaan. At one point, Moses told the Israelites, “Observe
therefore all the commands I am giving you today, so that you may have the
strength to go in and take over the land that you are crossing the Jordan
to possess, and so that you may live long in the land that the Lord swore
to your forefathers to give to them and their descendants, a land flowing
with milk and honey” (Deut 11:8,9).
passage gives me comfort and encouragement. Although your journey through
the wilderness of this life has been short, I must not forget that many
times along the way, I’ve caught glimpses of the lessons you were
learning. Nevertheless, I do have a list of concerns.
Safety will remain
Number One. It’s a concern that never goes away. It was there when you
started preschool. It was there again when you went off to elementary
school, and again in junior high, then high school... You get the picture.
But there is one
experience I must not forget. It was a winter’s evening in your freshman
year of high school. You’d signed up for a physical education class at
the community college to fulfill your graduation requirements. The sun had
already set a few hours earlier when I drove you into the dimly-lit
parking lot. Although the gymnasium was located just around the corner, I
could not see if there was a path to the building that seemed to me was
cloaked in a blanket of trees and shrubs.
Scanning the quiet
campus for a security person, I asked, “You want me to walk you there?”
You lifted your head
and surveyed the scene before you.
answered, “I can pray.”
Even so, I have
other concerns. How, for example, would you manage to pick your way
through opportunities that come your way as you maneuver the next phase of
your life’s journey to go on to the next, and the next one after that?
And if, for instance, you could narrow each difficult decision to five
choices, how would you know whether to pick (a), (b), (c), (d), or (e)?
You could probably
confirm that it’s a concern that never goes away. I remember this
incident at the start of your senior year of high school. As you worked
back and forth on the scheduling to fit all of the academic courses you
needed into a six-period day, you were also under great pressure to give
up one of these for jazz ensemble.
But one evening, I
overheard you speaking into the telephone.
“I was praying,
and it wasn’t even an issue at all!”
If this were a Top
Ten List, my next concern would rank high. In a culture where absolute
truths rank near or at the bottom of the pile, how would you feel your way
out of the morass of confusion? If what’s morally right or wrong depends
upon a society’s definition at a particular time, how would you not get
caught in this current and be swept out to the sea of a multitude shades
Actually, from my
parenting corner, I have observed that you are no stranger to matters of
right and wrong. Perhaps I really ought to be comforted that you adhered
to and championed principles of classroom ethics while you were in high
school. But when you step through that door, your fights will not be about
the temptation to scrap together English papers from study guides Few, if
any, of your fights will be won because you chose to read an assigned book
from cover to cover.
Yet I shall not
despair. In fact, I shall be encouraged. As He did during the first phase
of your life’s journey, the Lord Himself will go before you and be with
you: if you need to be carried, He will carry you; if you get lost, He
will show you the way you should go; and if you must fight, He will fight
for you. The Lord our God is an awesome God, and there is none like Him.
Only remember to love Him with all your heart, and do not forget to listen
to His voice and hold fast to Him. If you do, you will be walking in faith
toward that day when—though you may have arrived at the end of your life’s
journey—you will be assured that just beyond the river, there awaits
your soul the Promised Land of the New Jerusalem. There you will be safe
and secure in that place where the glory of God lights up the city
infinitely, where God wipes away every tear, and where nothing and no one
impure will be. So be strong and courageous.
Written as a mother
would to her child, “Letters from Mom” addresses the struggles of our
young people as they step toward the threshold of adulthood. This column
hopes to encourage, comfort, and urge the youth to continue living as
children of God. Please send comments or questions to email@example.com.